Tuesday, May 21, 2013

The nerve of some people.

I am truly blown away by some people. I was raised to work hard, be kind, pray for others and help them in any way I can. I have worked my butt off since I was 15 years old, really younger baby sitting and mowing lawns. I donate to the food bank and animal shelter monthly. I have been blessed with an ok job as well as my husband. I do have student loans and medical bills but no real debit. The fact that I don't making $100,000 to pay for IVF doesn't mean I don't deserve to be a mother. I picked a loving, amazing, God fearing man to marry and we are infertile. God has blessed me with amazing friends that have donated money but yes I have sold many many things to add to our fund. We don't buy things we can't afford. I would give anyone the shirt off my back and anyone who knows the real me knows this. If I could work three jobs I would but going to school, working, and attending church (I start teaching in Sep) I am left with very little time. Not to add I can't be on my feet to much since I was hurt while in the Army serving our country. I never pull that card but I am the one that raised my hand and vowed to fight for you to the right to say the hateful things you believe.

At first I thought you were just ignorant and I was willing to let your comments go, or even try and educate but now I know you are just hateful.

Why can one donate personally to a friend after they've lost their house in a tornado but you can't donate money to a friend to have a baby. Should my friends that lost their house suck up their bad luck and be told to get another job and deal with insurance and rebuilding yourself? No we should give what we can and help. If my friends and family are blessed and want to help us build our dream of a family then they are amazing people. I have no forced anyone to help me nor do I expect it. My dream is a family and someone elses might be to open a hotel or whatever and you would expect your friends and family to support that. Is it not right for those lucky people who have IVF coverage thru their insurance to use it? They didn't work three jobs for it, they just got lucky.

I know this post will not chance the mind of those that aren't willing to open their minds and not judge others. I live my life the best I can trying to serve God. He and only he has blessed me with good friends and family who support me. That support may be money, a pray, a hug, a dose of HCG, whatever, I am truly blessed! I wish that you knew what feeling blessed was like. I feel sorry for you.

To those that stepped up and had my back and love me thank you. Ya'll are amazing and I love you!!

Just a side note I have donated to those harmed by the tornado. Many are close personal friends. I also opened my home to them. It could have been me and then what? Then you would donate?


  1. Wow, I'm really sorry to hear that people just can't keep their opinions to themselves, they just have to judge. What a shame. Don't listen to them. Geez people, if you don't agree, don't donate. Get a life!

    Hang in there hon!

  2. Oh Jennie, I want to give you a huge hug right now. I am seriously in awe at the ignorance and stupidity of some people. I have always thought of this as a safe place where we can all share our struggles and lean on each other for support and guidance, I never in a million years would dream that such bullying could occur here.

    You are an amazing person and I am so thankful that you were safe yesterday. I know you're BFP is right around the corner and you won't need ivf anyway :) You and your DH are in my prayers!

  3. I'm sorry to hear someone or more than one have been negative towards you. I know some people think it's "tacky" to donate for IVF or adoption, but I don't get that mentality myself. We donate to all sorts of medical conditions, but this one, this one most of us don't have insurance coverage for, people stick their noses up about. If they don't agree with the idea of donating, you know that's their deal- don't donate. No need to be negative and fight with people.

  4. I owe you no explanation, just as you don't owe me one...but i found your site while supporting other "hard" workers as they are trying IVF without asking people to donate. DH an I worked are butts off for 3 years. We worked three jobs a piece, came up with the money ourselves and never once asked family or worse strangers to "fund" our baby.

    It's also funny that ALL these people have all this backlash to say and you are saying than you, yet only two people have donated money to you! hmmmmm

    1. You're right I don't since clearly you know everything about me. You know for a fact that no other friends or business have donated money or items for our fund raiser. Ok

  5. I'm sorry you are dealing with this. I am raising money as well, and we don't even need as much money as we would for a fresh IVF. Thankfully I haven't had anyone say anything nasty about it yet (at least not to me). I get so many invitations for parties to buy candles, tupperware, jewelry, makeup etc so my friends can make some extra cash, why shouldn't we be able to ask them? It's not like you are demanding people give you stuff.